What to Say While Tapping:
How to Pick Effective EFT Tapping Phrases
The EFT Reminder Phrase
When first learning EFT, one of the most common questions
words do I use for the EFT reminder (problem) phrase"? I
know that this
was confusing for me when I was first learning. There are
a number of
elements to coming up with good tapping phrases, but I
would like to
key principle with you that will help make selecting good
phrases much easier.
The first thing that we hear about when picking reminder
phrases is to
be as specific as possible. This is very true but as
specific as possible about what?
The most common mistake that I find that people make is to
reminder phrase that describes their problem as a concept
than their direct experience of the problem.
"The cause of all negative
emotions is a disturbance in our body's energy system."
The purpose of the reminder phrase is to help activate
disturbance so that we can clear it out through tapping.
this by getting clearly in touch with our experience of
For instance, let's say that your problem is that you
New tappers might be tempted to say:
"Even though I procrastinate, I
deeply and profoundly accept myself."
The problem with the phrase "I procrastinate" is that it
is a mental
concept; it is not your actual experience of
your procrastination problem.
So, what is your experience of procrastinating?
easiest way to get in
touch with this is to think about some task about which
procrastinating. You will probably feel some kind of
aversion to doing
that task with an accompanying sensation in your body. The
sensation may be something like a tightness in your
stomach or chest.
Your aversion and bodily sensations are your
initial experience of the problem.
Now, let's get more specific.
What is your experience
of the aversion specifically
about? You tune into your aversion and bodily sensations
and wait to
see what comes up for you. Eventually, you get in touch
afraid that you might not do the task perfectly, so you
are having an
aversion to getting started.
A possible tapping phrase could now be:
"Even though I am afraid to
start because I might not do it perfectly"
Do you see how this is very different from: "Even though
The prior phrase describes your actual experience of the
second one describes your problem as a mental concept.
Descriptions of your experience of a problem will tend to
bodily sensations, emotions and thoughts/beliefs related
emotions, as in our example above. If you use this
describing your experience of your
problem rather than the concept of it, you'll find that
you will come
up with much more effective tapping phrases.
Now, in the procrastination example, you may want to
Why is doing something imperfectly a painful prospect?
experiences led to this feeling? Ideally, you will want to
those painful memories to really heal this issue. (I cover
work with painful memories in my newsletter.)
Hugs to all,
Expert EFT Practitioner, Trainer, Love Coach and Soulmate Attraction Mentor
Note: Procrastination can actually be a complex issue. We
just looked at
one common potential source of procrastination for this
can be many others as well.
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